Your First Swingers Party

Talk before you go

Agree on your limits at home, not at the party. Say out loud what is fine, what is not, and what is a maybe. Pick a signal that means "let's step outside and talk". The couples who have the best first nights are the ones who already know their answers.

You do not have to do anything

Plenty of couples spend their first party talking, dancing and watching. That is normal and nobody will push you. Being there is enough.

What to wear

Dress for a good cocktail bar. Suits, tailored shirts, dresses, heels if you like them. Lingerie under the dress is common, and some guests change later in the night. Smart beats loud.

When you arrive

You check in under the name or alias you used on your application. Your phone goes into the cloakroom. Someone from the team says hello, shows you around, and introduces you to a couple of people. Then you have a drink and take your time.

How "no" works

A polite "no, thank you" ends the question. No reason is needed and nobody asks for one. Asking again after a no gets a guest removed. The same goes for touching without asking first.

Single women

Single women are very welcome and are a big part of every party. You get the same respect, the same rules and the same right to say no at any moment.

After the party

Talk with your partner the next day. What did you like? What would you change? Most couples say the second party is the one where they really relax.

Ready? Read the house rules, then get on the invitation list.